When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart (Tiede)

When your husband's addiction to pornography leaves you shattered, betrayed, and alone, where do you turn? Who do you turn to? Vicki Tiede, writing from personal experience, gently guides women toward God and away from despair. Through daily readings and questions on six important topics: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness, you will grow in healing and hope. Allowing God to meet your greatest needs is a long and learned process, but he promises to help you every step of the way. Questions and daily readings are suitable for both individuals and small groups. 

Table of Contents: 

Week 1: Hope 

1. Truth Unveiled 

2. Needing Hope 

3. Grieving Losses 

4. When the Wind Blows 

5. Today We Fight! 

Week 2: Surrender 

1. Let Go of Being a Pleaser

2. Let Go of Control 

3. Let Go of Fear 

4. Let Go of Guilt 

5. Let Go of Anger

Week 3: Trust

1. Lies, Lies, and More Lies

2. Well-Placed Trust 

3. Safe Support 

4. Intimacy 

5. Needs, Desires, Longings, and Yearnings

Week 4: Identity 

1. Pursued and Chosen 

2. God’s Design 

3. Comparison Trap

4. Self-Worth 

5. Irreplaceable

Week 5: Brokenness 

1. Black-and-White Thinking 

2. Looking in the Magnified Mirror 

3. Pick It Up to Lay It Down

4. Go Through It or Grow Through It 

5. A New Mosaic 

Week 6: Forgiveness 

1. A Choice 

2. Not Forgetting, but Not Vengeful

3. The Hard Truth

4. Creating an Environment of Healing

5. He Sees and He Redeems

Author

Vicki Tiede, MEd, MMin, is a Bible teacher; conference speaker; author of Plug Me In and Let Me Charge Overnight(2009); minibook, Your Husband is Addicted to Porn; and a contributing author for five other books. Her passion is to share God's grace and faithfulness with women through the Scriptures. Vicki transparently relates life experiences that resonate and draw others into a lifelong pursuit of knowing God. Living in Rochester, Minnesota, Vicki is also a wife, homeschooling mom, and women's ministries coordinator at her local church.

Endorsements

"Vicki Tiede has done an extraordinary job of describing one of the "hidden sins" in our churches and culture that destroys marriages and causes deep anguish. She shares the stories of twenty-five women who have known this pain; and she gives poignant, biblical advice on a workable plan of action. Vicki's willingness to tell her own story makes this book shine with warmth, depth, and renewed hope. If you are struggling with the problem personally or if you counsel people who do, read this book!" - Carol Kent, Speaker; Author of Between a Rock and a Grace Place 
 
"There is no doubt that pornography has created a tsunami of personal and relational pain. While culture might suggest that it is normal, the trauma that it creates in marriages suggests that it is not healthy. Vicki brings her extensive experience in Bible teaching to provide hope and healing for spouses who have been betrayed by pornography addiction.  Her use of Scripture gently reminds spouses to lean into God¿s truths: He will provide, protect, and walk along all those who are hurting; you are not alone." - Debbie Laaser, LAMFT; Author of Shattered Vows
 
"Vicki Tiede's book provides hope, help, and a pathway to healing for women marred by their husband's addiction to pornography. Based on biblical principles, this resource can aid the reader to become a victor rather than a victim." - Josh McDowell, Speaker; Best-Selling Author

"A porn plague is raging in homes across the world today, and for every addicted husband there is a brokenhearted wife. While there is an abundance of powerful, biblical resources to help men overcome addiction, their wives have largely been overlooked. I am grateful that Vicki Tiede has filled that void. In a book that is sensitive, biblical, and conversational, she comes alongside hurting women as a friend and guides them to the hope and peace only the gospel can give." - Tim Challies, Author; Pastor; Blogger